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I hate my job. I'm getting divorced. What I want to do is pack up and move to another state, close to my favorite relative and start my own consulting company.

Logic and common sense tell me that during a recession is not the best time to be quitting an actual job in hand. And I don't know as starting my own business is such a great idea in general, since I suck at self-marketing (although my skills are excellent). And it's a bad time to be trying to sell the condo, as well.

But if I don't just quit and move, it will probably never happen, and I'll be stuck here where I don't want to be doing something I don't want to do forever.

Advice?

Dear I Hate My Job-

My advice is... there's nothing wrong with waiting. You're right--this is a terrible time to quit a job and it's an even worse time to try to sell property. You'll lose a lot of money trying to sell right now, but if you wait a few years, the housing market will turn around and you'll be in a much better position to start a new life.

I've picked up and moved many times. It's scary and exhilarating, but at the same time, I always did so with a plan in place. I've never moved without having a job lined up and a place to live waiting for me. I am not that brave! And in times like these, with no guarantee that you'll be able to find a new job elsewhere, or get a loan to start your own business (banks don't have capital right now! We're in a credit crunch and loans are hard to come by) or even that you can sell your condo and use the profits to get yourself started, it's safer to wait for the economy to recover.

There's no reason you can't just quit and move two years from now, when your plan has a much better chance of working! And in the meantime, start making a plan. Decide what, exactly, you want to do (ie starting your own company or finding a job elsewhere), where you want to go, all of that. Quitting and picking up and moving actually takes a lot longer than it sounds. By the time you finish creating a business plan and working out the details of what you want to do, maybe the housing market will have recovered and it'll be the right time to implement the plan.

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dazifudo and I started moving into our new place today. Just a couple of boxes of books and things, but at least we got started a little, always a good thing. I'm so excited about the new place. It's gorgeous. We have a fireplace! My bedroom has its own little balcony, which I will definitely be getting some sort of lawn furniture or possibly a hammock for. It's much smaller than our current place, but super close to downtown. We're only a couple blocks from Chuy's. It's really a great neighborhood, so much stuff right there. Threadgills is only a block away. We can go to shows there! And Gospel Brunch! We're also only a couple blocks from the place where all the really big events come, so you know if Kelly Clarkson comes back, I could totally WALK there.

Next week is the big move. Sarah's dad and brother are coming up to help us move the big stuff, and some of our friends will help out too. I need to start packing for real soon. And I need to do laundry and call the electric company and the cable company to get our service switched. Eeeee I can't wait! It's going to be so awesome.

A bunch of us are going to see An Inconvenient Truth tomorrow at the Drafthouse. I'm pretty excited. I really like Al Gore. I mean, he's no Bill, and Tipper is pretty fucking scary, but he's a good guy and he should've been President.

I think I am infected. By which I mean I think my tooth is infected (actually I KNOW my tooth is infected because Tor [my dentist] said it was in that disapproving, "You need to do better" tone that dentists have) and it is making me sick.

I feel like I'm drunk, but without having imbibed. Actually I feel like when you get drunk and then it starts to wear off and your head is all cottony and you might throw up. And also hot and cold flashes. I have taken some anti-biotics but apparently they suck because I feel SO weird.

Booo. I am supposed to go to the Boy Band Sing Along tonight. BOOO times ten if I don't get to see Jordan Knight dancing around in glitter and Justin dancing around in his hoodie, I will be very sad.

Hi! *waves* So, this used to be the journal I was going to write that novel in that one time, but then I never did because I suck, probably. I'm converting it. Now it is a personal journal, mainly for the benefit of my friends and family who for some reason don't appreciate Jensen Ackles as much as I do and want to like, know what's going on in my life. Or something.

Anyway so there's that. Those of you who don't have livejournals (Rebecca *cough*) need to get them, because I'll probably lock most of these entries. That is all for now. Time to try to eat some fake chicken even though I can't chew anymore because of these dumb brackets.

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...did it work?